27 Jan 2018

One of the new blog series I want to write this year is “My Parents Moved In. Where Can I Put My Yarn?”

It doesn’t really have much, if anything, to do with knitting except that I knit and work on knitting-related projects all the time, and that usually spreads out to take over most of the rooms in my house. I pile my papers and tools on the coffee table in the living room but when my mom’s here, that’s her private space and the home-base for her dog. I dye yarn in the kitchen, but with my parents here, that can be inconvenient (and possibly dangerous) for trying to cook meals. My knitting bags are spread all over the house, but with four people here, I need to keep the floors and furniture empty so no one trips and we have places to sit. You get the picture, I think.

I wanted to start this series right after the holidays and tell funny stories about having my parents living here. Last summer, for example, when both of my parents were here at the same time for a month, my dad started complaining that my mom’s dog barks too much and my mom started complaining that my dad plays the TV too loud. I told Dom, “Now I know what it feels like to live in a house with teenagers.”

I drew a comic page of that scene, but mom doesn’t want me to put pictures of her dog on the internet. So that’s going to be a big problem! How do I decide what’s too private to put on my blog? Can I complain about what my parents do that gets on my nerves without hurting their feelings? Will they (or their friends) even read my blog? Can I write about our medical issues and bathroom habits? What about what we eat and drink?

My Parents Moved In #1 1

I do have some funny stories to tell, and I’m sure I’ll have more as the year progresses. But to be honest, I’ve been pretty stressed out and feeling crabby. I don’t want my blog to be full of whining. It’s going to be a bigger adjustment than I first thought it would be. Dom and I had no kids, so we’re used to doing whatever we want, whenever we want. My mom has been living with us for part of the year for 6 or 7 years. Dad came for two month-long visits last summer. Sure, they’ve been divorced for 45 years, but they never hated each other.  What could go wrong?

So, should I start looking for a therapist now?

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10 Responses to My Parents Moved In #1
  1. Oh, dear. What could go wrong… 🙂 This is going to be an adventure for you. Structure and routine? Get your parents going on some activities like gardening or birdwatching? Buy them a dog? Enroll everyone in yoga? Build a workshop for yourself out back!! Seriously, you are going to need hugs here an a regular basis. Remember, knitting is therapy and you deserve it more than ever. I think you’ve got the start of a great book here.

  2. Donna, yes your mom does read your blogs.

    Marilyn, I’m the mom and I already have a hobby……I started to draw two years ago and spend many hours working on graphite drawings. I am also a hermit type personality and so spend a lot of time in my private space alone with my drawings and my dog.

    What could go wrong……hahahahahaha.

  3. That’s going to be quite the transition. It is usually both a challenge and a blessing to be under the same roof as your parents once more. But this one has an interesting twist….not just parents but divorced parents! So the challenge is not just going to be the adjustment between you and your parents, but your parents getting used to living with each other once more. But hey, who knows, it might be a wonderful blend!

  4. Ditto on the book. A collaboration, maybe? She says/He says/She says.

  5. Louise in Baton Rouge January 28, 2018 at 10:44 am

    Donna, would you consider letting an automatic affirmation come to mind as often as needed–for example, “I’m doing the best I can.” Because you are, and I commend you for it.

  6. This reminds me of a favorite book I used to read my children!

  7. Elaine Petrowski January 29, 2018 at 1:10 pm

    take notes- you definitely have the makings for a new book! we are coming up on a year of my Mom living with us. It ain’t easy. And I don’t expect to get any easier. I’m in the process of setting up a sanctuary space for myself. ( Mom and my husband both already have one private space each!) If you don’t have one, I suggest you carve one out. Mine will include sewing machine, paints, yarn and my yoga mat! good luck. 🙂

  8. Of your many gifts, your wonderful sense of humor will be what gets you through the day, now and even more so many years from now. Your illustration says it all!

    • Louise Martin April 5, 2018 at 5:19 pm

      Julia, you’ve hit it right on the head. Thanks for your comment! Louise Martin

  9. Hi Donna- I’ve just discovered this blog post on your site. I love your illustrations and I’m in awe of the challenge you’ve taken on. I hope for more posts. A crabby response is the most mild way to describe such an upheaval I can imagine! I’m also intrigued by your work overall and will look for more info on your August wool dye workshop. Debra Eve referred me to your site – I have a passion (and a secret aspiration) for scaled up public art. The spirit is willing,even if the logistics are elusive; so many projects, so little time seems to be the theme of my 60s.

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